Things could always be worse
We all know that it can be very difficult to experience joy in every day life. But it is possible even when you are going through a hard time. I used to spend a lot of time being unhappy and sometimes even very angry for no reason. I would feel as though the world was out to get me. So I spent a lot of time being bitter towards people. My husband and I would fight about every little thing and my children heard it all. And then one day I made a decision to stop feeling that way. To my surprise it was not even that hard to change it. Once I decided I had had enough of such a life it came pretty easy to me to change things in myself and then in my family. I blamed a lot of my unhappiness on the fact that I did not have a teenage life like most kids do. I wanted to be free because I had been tied down since I was 14.
I became pregnant when I was just 14 years old. I was scared but also happy because I loved babies. But everything changed for me from then on. I had a lot of problems in my pregnancy. Thank God I had my parents to help me through everything. I had my son and loved him more than anything. It may have been rough raising a child at such a young age but I did it. Of course I had the help of my parents and even friends. By the time I was 17 I was pregnant again. So now 17 and raising two kids. And all I could think about then was that I wanted so bad for my kids to have a dad. Both of my kids dads stepped out. At the age of 19 I was married. And it was rough. I was still so young and my husband was many years older than me. I wanted to have freedom.
What I didn't realize then was the fact that I gave up my freedom when I decided to have two children as a kid and get married before my life had begun.I made those decisions and therefore it was my responsibility to suck it up and do what I needed to. I always took care of my kids. They was and are my world. The gist of it all is this: I used me never getting to be a teenager as an excuse for why I was so bitter and angry with the world, especially my husband. He had already lived his fun days and was an adult. I never did. I became an adult way before I was supposed to. So because I wanted to do whatever I wanted but did not get to made me very bitter. And I took that all out on my husband. I dropped all my friends because I couldn't hang out and do anything fun any way. I was jealous of all the people around me that still got to do what they wanted.Even though I was the one who kept that from happening for myself.
So to boil it all down, I had to teach myself not to be mad at the world for something I had chose.Once I set my mind to change I did. And it did take many years for me to get to the point I wanted to be but I did it. I made a vow to stop fighting with my husband about every stupid thing I could. I made a vow to just teach my kids all I knew and push them to be good. It didn't take much pushing though. They was always pretty good. Holding my tongue was my first step. I had to tell myself many times to just shut up and not say anything. Eventually those stupid things that seemed to bother me so much just stopped bothering me so much. Do not get me wrong, I still have some pet peeves. But now I can deal with them much more calmly. I started reminding myself of all the good things in my life and how blessed I was to have them.
I have a huge family. And I have seen a lot of my female cousins be with men who abused them to extremes. My husband never did that to me. I was blessed with a man who did not believe in such a thing. So I have been blessed to be married to a man for many years that loves me enough not to abuse me. And on the plus side he took me and my two kids in and raised them as his own, We did have two children together. So in all we have 4 kids. Our kids are now mostly grown. Our oldest now 20 comes and goes. He mostly lives away from home. Our second oldest soon to be 18 who is still in school and she has big goals. Our third oldest who is 15 close to 16 Is just like her mother. She is almost exactly like me. Our youngest just turned 14 and yes he is just like his dad. All of our kids have hearts of gold. They have compassion for others as though everyone is their best friend. They give beyond belief and all very smart an determined to have a good life. Both of my parents are still alive. Even though they are separated for many many years now, they are happily married and living peacefully. I have lots and lots of other family. I am an only girl of four brothers. So I always had lots of protection. I am blessed to no end. We may not live like kings and queens but we have everything we need and then some. We have each other.
The key to having joy in your life is to first make a choice to be happy and then stick to it. Do not let hard times bring you down. Look for the good in your life and be thankful that it is not worse. Because one thing is for sure. Things could always be worse. And most importantly, well at least for me is to trust God. I know not everyone is religious. But the advice is still guaranteed if you just decide to stand to it and never give up. Never give up!!!!!! Thank you all for reading. I do hope this has helped someone today. More to come soon. Love to all.
I became pregnant when I was just 14 years old. I was scared but also happy because I loved babies. But everything changed for me from then on. I had a lot of problems in my pregnancy. Thank God I had my parents to help me through everything. I had my son and loved him more than anything. It may have been rough raising a child at such a young age but I did it. Of course I had the help of my parents and even friends. By the time I was 17 I was pregnant again. So now 17 and raising two kids. And all I could think about then was that I wanted so bad for my kids to have a dad. Both of my kids dads stepped out. At the age of 19 I was married. And it was rough. I was still so young and my husband was many years older than me. I wanted to have freedom.
What I didn't realize then was the fact that I gave up my freedom when I decided to have two children as a kid and get married before my life had begun.I made those decisions and therefore it was my responsibility to suck it up and do what I needed to. I always took care of my kids. They was and are my world. The gist of it all is this: I used me never getting to be a teenager as an excuse for why I was so bitter and angry with the world, especially my husband. He had already lived his fun days and was an adult. I never did. I became an adult way before I was supposed to. So because I wanted to do whatever I wanted but did not get to made me very bitter. And I took that all out on my husband. I dropped all my friends because I couldn't hang out and do anything fun any way. I was jealous of all the people around me that still got to do what they wanted.Even though I was the one who kept that from happening for myself.
So to boil it all down, I had to teach myself not to be mad at the world for something I had chose.Once I set my mind to change I did. And it did take many years for me to get to the point I wanted to be but I did it. I made a vow to stop fighting with my husband about every stupid thing I could. I made a vow to just teach my kids all I knew and push them to be good. It didn't take much pushing though. They was always pretty good. Holding my tongue was my first step. I had to tell myself many times to just shut up and not say anything. Eventually those stupid things that seemed to bother me so much just stopped bothering me so much. Do not get me wrong, I still have some pet peeves. But now I can deal with them much more calmly. I started reminding myself of all the good things in my life and how blessed I was to have them.
I have a huge family. And I have seen a lot of my female cousins be with men who abused them to extremes. My husband never did that to me. I was blessed with a man who did not believe in such a thing. So I have been blessed to be married to a man for many years that loves me enough not to abuse me. And on the plus side he took me and my two kids in and raised them as his own, We did have two children together. So in all we have 4 kids. Our kids are now mostly grown. Our oldest now 20 comes and goes. He mostly lives away from home. Our second oldest soon to be 18 who is still in school and she has big goals. Our third oldest who is 15 close to 16 Is just like her mother. She is almost exactly like me. Our youngest just turned 14 and yes he is just like his dad. All of our kids have hearts of gold. They have compassion for others as though everyone is their best friend. They give beyond belief and all very smart an determined to have a good life. Both of my parents are still alive. Even though they are separated for many many years now, they are happily married and living peacefully. I have lots and lots of other family. I am an only girl of four brothers. So I always had lots of protection. I am blessed to no end. We may not live like kings and queens but we have everything we need and then some. We have each other.
The key to having joy in your life is to first make a choice to be happy and then stick to it. Do not let hard times bring you down. Look for the good in your life and be thankful that it is not worse. Because one thing is for sure. Things could always be worse. And most importantly, well at least for me is to trust God. I know not everyone is religious. But the advice is still guaranteed if you just decide to stand to it and never give up. Never give up!!!!!! Thank you all for reading. I do hope this has helped someone today. More to come soon. Love to all.
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